Motherhood is a big job. It takes a lot of energy and, unfortunately, sometimes when we need sleep the most, we're deprived of it. I have lots of friends that just had babies and the number one complaint I hear is how much their babies are up at night. They're exhausted and rightly so.
Knowing full well that Moms in this situation will likely start throwing tomatoes at their computer over my next statement, I'll share my sleep success regardless. I have an 8 week old and she sleeps through the night. It is heaven and it's not a fluke. I owe it all to a great book: On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep by Gary Ezzo.
I was very lucky to be introduced to this book before my first baby was born. I read it cover to cover and when my child was born, I followed the principles. I found it very simple to implement the recommended feeding and sleep schedules. It was as if my baby already naturally followed those schedules and I was just staying out of the way, in a sense. Sure enough, just like the book promised, my son was sleeping through the night by 8 weeks.
Five more kids and the method has still proved true to its word. All 6 kids have slept through the night by 8 weeks. Check it out. It's only a couple of bucks on Amazon and it's definitely worth the read and the sleep.
One note though. I've recommended this book to lots of friends who are struggling with their infant's sleep patterns. Most often, they get discouraged because it's too hard. Certainly, If you can read this before your baby is born, it is much easier. It is definitely easiest to sleep train your baby from birth. But, it's never too late. Don't get discouraged. Whenever you have to untrain a bad habit and replace it with a new one, it's not easy. That will be true in infancy and throughout their life. But, it's worth it. I hope you'll find, as I did, that this sleep method can help restore sleep for both you and your baby.
For a balanced perspective, I have resourced this book, too, with my kids, but I have found it works well for me when also coupled with “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” by Marc Weisbluth (also only a couple bucks used on Amazon). It gives a similar theory (a play, sleep, eat) cycle, but in a different voice I responded to better. I also like how it carries past the baby stage. I don’t know if Babywise does that. Check out both books.
The two things ding-dong moments I got that helped me with my babies was that play, sleep, eat cycle and that babies can’t be awake for more than 2 hours. Once I noticed that, their sleep rhythms were nearly effortless 🙂